I don't want to look back and think how wonderful it *could have* been if only I hadn't been so afraid to live my own life. So I make the choices that align to how I want to be living. For me, this means I spend a lot of time with my peeps, I welcome new adventures, and I get out and do the fun things I enjoy.
When I made the decision about ten years ago to learn to love my self, my life and my people again, I had no idea how much change would be forthcoming. When we make a claim like that, then we necessarily have to address everything in our life that is blocking what we want. When I compare where I am now with where I was then, I barely recognize my life. Where I live, who and what I fill my time with, and how I fulfill my purpose have all changed.
I am somehow both stronger and softer. I am more loving, and also less willing to be taken advantage of. I am more confident and more accepting of my imperfections and flaws. I still have a desire to serve and help others, but only in the ways that work best for me AND them.
I am no longer willing to over-commit or over-give at my own expense. I have learned how important it is to set boundaries, to allow endings, and to say NO when I need to. This leaves space for me to say YES to what is aligned and resonant for me... whether it be a project, an event, a way of doing business, or a relationship.
Anything or anyone that feels like it's draining my power or restricting my freedom isn't a fit for me. I've learned the hard way that when I'm in a draining or depleting situation or relationship, I am not at my best. I'm not as present, passionate or loving as I would otherwise be.
I have done much work to cultivate healthier relationships and more love and joy and I only have emotional and energetic space for that which ADDS to my sense of freedom, love, and joy.
When we identify something that no longer feels resonant or aligned, we need to decide what to do about that. Sometimes that means grappling with difficult choices, addressing fears, and facing uncertainty. I've done that for myself and now I help my clients too. I come alongside them as a compassionate companion and guide. I am not there to give them answers. Instead, I create a safe space for them to reflect, explore, ponder, and experiment. I invite them to trust themselves and their decisions. Here is what one client had to say:
"You asked me questions that helped me think deeper and see things differently. You helped open me to new possibilities when I was feeling really stuck in monotony. I feel like I have fresh ideas, a plan to move forward, and the tools to make things happen. Thank you for being a great guide and for giving me gentle nudging. I have really enjoyed and benefitted from our time together."
If you could use that kind of support in your life, I invite you to schedule a discovery session with me to see if we might be a fit.
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