When quitting is good.... Over the last ten years, I have quit everything from jobs to relationships to unhealthy or unproductive habits, to mindsets and unhelpful core beliefs. My focus has been on letting go of anything that was not aligned to my purpose, vision, values or needs.
At the beginning of this year, I made a couple of life choices that had a profound effect on my overall sense of wellbeing and joy.
First, I made the decision to stop drinking. I didn't drink all that often, but when I did, I found myself over-indulging just enough... to the point of not feeling well and then being very low on energy the following day. I wasn't very true to myself on the nights I over-indulged, either. Being under the influence impacted my behavior and some of my choices.
So I quit.
Within days of that decision, I ended a relationship that was starting to feel unhealthy and emotionally manipulative. My intuition had been warning me that something wasn't right for awhile. When my partner stopped honoring my boundaries and resorted to manipulative behaviors, I made the swift decision to release the relationship and refocus on myself, my friends and my business.
Both of these choices were acts of self-love and self-care.
Quitting gets a bad rap, but it's not always a bad thing to quit. Sometimes quitting is exactly what we need to do in order to care for our whole self. As we grow and evolve, our needs and priorities evolve too and we may find misalignment in different areas of our life.
Making the choice to quit something that no longer resonates is not selfish; sometimes its necessary.
How often do we hear "winners never quit"...? While this sentiment certainly has its time and place, it's not a hard rule that should ALWAYS be followed. If we find ourselves in a situation that is more draining than fulfilling over time, then we need to question if the situation is still the right fit. This extends to our work, our relationships, and other ways we spend our time.
We need to notice the time wasters and energy drains, and how we feel about the situations we find ourselves in. Activities, habits, and even relationships that are not moving us in our desired direction are a HUGE drain of our time and energy. If we are in a situation that's no longer aligned to how we want to be living or how we want to feel, then it may be time to make a new choice.
Endings are hard. As we bring old habits, ways of being, or relationships to a close, we may feel resistance and we may experience a sense of loss as we let go. It's important to honor our discomfort, but choose to keep moving forward.
When we let go of what's pulling us down, we feel lighter and we create MORE time, MORE space, and MORE energy.
Quitting the wrong things frees us up for the right things.
What is draining YOUR energy?
Can you make some adjustments or do you need to completely let go?