"fearless" isn't the goal

"I'm not going to get my hopes up..." Have you ever said that to yourself? I sure have. For me it's been a self-protection mechanism so as not to feel disappointed or let down later. Earlier today I caught myself feeling hopeful about a new possibility in my life. Even though it's much too early to know for sure whether or not this will come to fruition, I allowed myself to feel the hopefulness and excitement.


Moments later, I found myself in tears. I acknowledged that I was feeling hopeful and excited, and I was also a little scared. This new possibility, should it come to fruition, will require a whole new level of openness and vulnerability from me. It will require me to do things differently and to do some things I've never done before.


I love having new experiences and I appreciate how much they help me grow when they come along.


AND....


It's not unnatural for me to feel fear when I'm facing something new - even when I'm excited about it.


I disagree with the concept of becoming "fearless" because I don't think that should be our objective. Fear is a natural human emotion. I'd rather feel the fear so I can understand what I need to pay attention to as I move forward. My personal goal relating to fear is to feel it, learn from it, adjust if needed, then move forward anyway.


And that's what I'm committed to doing in this situation. I acknowledged that I'm afraid, AND I'm committed to exploring the opportunity anyway.


How do you approach the new possibilities in your life?
How do you respond when you feel fear?
What helps you move THROUGH the fear into what's possible?


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