my worst critic
To believe that we must hide the parts of us that feel broken or that we are ashamed of, out of fear that others won't accept or love us as we are, is "to believe that sunshine is incapable of entering a broken window and warming an empty room." (Sandra King)
I was my own worst critic and harshest judge.... For everything I believed to be lacking within. For my mistakes and failings. For all the "stupid" things I said and did. For too long, I carried the weight of guilt and un-deservedness. This impacted how I showed up in my relationships and in my life overall, and led to self-sabotaging behaviors that blocked love and joy from flowing in.
I had to make space for the new. How did I do this?
I had to FORGIVE MYSELF....
For my past choices and behaviors.
For making mistakes.
For letting myself down.
For berating myself for too long.
For giving away my power.
It took me a long time to realize that not a single one of us is perfect. We ALL make mistakes. We all say and do things we can't take back. This doesn't make us terrible people. It makes us human.
What matters is that we become aware of the underlying motivations for why we do what we do so we can realize what we need to UNLEARN, what we need to RELEARN, and how we are being called to grow and evolve.
If any of this resonates with you,
Please remember this -
You're not your mistakes.
Your past doesn't define you.
You get to decide how you'll show up today.
You get to choose differently now.
You DO deserve love and joy!
Begin to appreciate yourself for how far you have come, how much you have grown, and for everything you ARE. Be gentle with yourself as you learn. Be proud of your courage and strength.
You have so many beautiful qualities within you - EMBRACE THEM! Choose to see yourself in a new light and commit to loving yourself now, exactly as you are.
"Keep your face toward the sunshine, and shadows will fall behind you" (Walt Whitman)
Whose definition of success are you aspiring to...? Externally-imposed ideals about what it means to be successful may make us feel inadequate when we don't "measure up." I long ago let go of other people's ideals and created my own definition of success. This and focusing on what brings feelings of fulfillment in my life make me feel EMPOWERED and FREE!
I also redefined what it means to live with a sense of BALANCE - I released the unrealistic expectation that all areas of my life are "in balance" all the time. I started feeling a greater sense of balance when I:
-Redefined my relationship with time and “time management”
-Made my own wellbeing a priority
-Started investing most of my energy into what and who is most important to me... which includes lots of time for fun and play!
My invitation to you is this: TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF! I had to learn this the hard way: Practicing self-care and self-love is *not* selfish; it’s actually very necessary in order for you to keep up with the pace of life and accomplish the vision for the life you are creating.
Without joy, play, fun, and guilt-free self-care, you will become exhausted and eventually you WILL burn out.
If you need ideas about how to reclaim your energy and invest more into your own JOY and wellbeing, let's talk. Reach out to schedule a complementary discovery call and let's explore the shifts you can make in your own life.
Grateful to receive this testimonial from a client who just completed her 8-week program. When we started working together, she was feeling lost and scattered, like she was treading water. She felt like a lack of organization and time management was blocking the peace and confidence she desired.
Throughout the eight weeks we worked together, she reconnected with the things that brought her joy and made more time in her schedule to do those things. She used to believe that her hobbies or interests were not contributing to the household/family, so she put them off. By the time we completed our time together, she realized how important it was for her to pursue her own interests and do things that brought more joy into her life - because that had a direct impact on others at home.
She reconnected with aspects of herself that had been forgotten or had been lying dormant for too long. For this particular client, that happened to be her creativity. While working together, she realized how important it was for her to have a creative outlet. Once she reconnected with this part of herself, other things began to fall into place.
Here is how she summarized the ways I helped her: "You helped guide me; you asked me questions that made me think deeper and see things differently. You helped open me up to new possibilities when I was feeling really stuck in monotony. I feel like I have fresh ideas and a plan to move forward with some new things. I have the tools to make things happen. Thank you for being a great guide, for giving me the gentle nudging and fresh perspective I needed. I have really enjoyed and benefitted from our time together."
I enjoyed working with this client so much and felt privileged to witness her transformation!
If any of this resonates with you - if you feel like you're stuck in monotony, if you need to cultivate more joy in your life, or if you need to reconnect with forgotten aspects of yourself... I invite you to schedule a discovery session with me to see how I can help.
I'll put the link to do that in the comments below, or you can send me a direct message.