Accepting my humanness
What if ... all your quirks, eccentricities, flaws, and mistakes are guiding you toward a greater love of and for yourself? Rather than seeing these as something you want to change - can you accept them? Embrace them even?
This has been a lifelong practice and area of growth for me.
Rather than hiding the unique aspects of myself - I'm learning to embrace them. My nuances make me who I am and keep me moving forward in a way that works for me. Just because I do things differently than so many others, doesn't make me wrong. It's taken me a long time to see that - but now that I have seen it, I can't unsee it.
As for my flaws and mistakes.... well, there's a TON of them. I have spent years punishing myself and carrying guilt and shame for a few of my choices. It's taken a lot of practice to extend myself grace and forgiveness.
I'm human. And every human messes up sometimes. When I mess up now, I see it as an opportunity to take a look at myself, to get curious about my motivations and why I chose the way I did, and then move forward and choose differently next time.
Expecting perfection of ourselves isn't fair. Life isn't perfect. We aren't perfect. We absolutely will mess up.
Learning to extend grace, compassion, and forgiveness to ourselves when we do - is life-changing!!!
Become present before choosing
We make a variety of choices every day - what to do, where to go, what to eat, who to talk to, and what to say. Many of these little daily decisions seem small and insignificant in the moment, but if we make them without awareness - on autopilot - we may unintentionally be impacting our long-term health and wellbeing, and it may have an impact on our relationships.
The quality of presence is necessary for us to make heart-centered decisions and to fully engage with our life. When it comes to major life decisions, if we are not checking in with our heart first, we may make decisions that are not in alignment with our deepest needs and desires. These decisions may send us on a path away from the life we want to create.
Becoming more present supports you in:
•cultivating peace and groundedness within yourself
•hearing your heart's deepest desires
•shifting your mindset to abundance and gratitude
•expressing your spirit in ways that nourish you
•exploring the full range of your emotions and expressing them in healthy and productive ways
•extending yourself kindness, compassion, forgiveness and love
Are you choosing with intention, or reacting from autopilot?
If you could use support in cultivating more presence in your relationships or any other area of your life, let's set up a discovery session to explore how I can help.
I am venturing into 2022 with a completely CLEAN SLATE and RENEWED ENERGY. After a few years of endings and letting go of everything that no longer resonates with me, this year will bring new beginnings in all areas of my life.
One thing I'm cultivating this year is more FREEDOM:
*Freedom to completely trust myself and my intuition
*Freedom to only do the kind of work that fulfills and enriches me
*Freedom to build my business in a way that works for me
Some of you may be thinking - ummm, why haven't you been doing that all along...?!
Getting to this point of liberation has not been easy. I was holding on to a lot of old beliefs, thought patterns and unhelpful habits that were holding me back and keeping my stuck.
I had to release distractions, busy work, and other things that diverted or drained my energy. I let go of the old habits and created new ones. I did more self-healing work and refocused on my spiritual practices.
I reconnected with my PASSIONS, recommitted to my PURPOSE, and reminded myself of my greatest GIFTS and TALENTS that enable me to serve others with joy. With all my newfound clarity, I'm stepping onto my new path REINVIGORATED. I'm aligning my choices and channeling my energy into what I want to CREATE.
The last few years have been challenging - at times, downright difficult. I quit a lot of things, but I never gave up on myself. I kept moving forward, slowly recreating my environment in such a way to support the feeling of freedom I desire.
What are you desiring more of this year?
What lifestyle will you be creating for yourself?
What steps are you taking to move in that direction?
Make the choices that will move you toward what you desire. Trust yourself. You got this.
“You were made for this. Your business fills a need that is not being met. We looked at counseling and therapy and they weren’t the right fit for us. We contemplated getting a book – but who is going to help us actually do it?" I received this feedback from a Relationship Coaching client recently.
I've been working with this couple since early November. Initially they expressed a desire to get the "spark" back into their relationship. They acknowledged that they were great friends, partners and co-parents, but had lost the habit of doing special things to keep the spark alive.
They experienced their very first insight BEFORE we even started working together. During their discovery session - they realized that they each had different definitions about what it would mean to "get the spark back."
They wanted support in changing their habits and keeping their relationship a priority amidst life realities such as busy work schedules and tending to their children. They had been talking about making changes for awhile, but their busy lives were causing some challenges in execution. They made the mutual decision to INVEST in each other and in their relationship.
They already had a very strong foundation, and we are building upon what already works well for them. It's been a joy to work with them. They have both been putting more intentionality and effort into reconnecting, communicating more often and more effectively, and bringing fun and playfulness into the process. The "work" of our relationships needn't be so hard all the time.
"As our coach, you see the blind spots we can’t see. You’re such an intuitive person and you bring your coaching skills, your own experiences and the growth you’ve gone through into it.”
As your relationship coach, I can help you challenge your old habits and patterns, too. Our relationships are a CRITICAL part of the wellbeing and joy we experience in life. Rather than running on auto-pilot, let's explore what's working and what's not in your relationship so you can decide what adjustments you want to make.
I've just opened up my calendar for February scheduling. If you're interested in learning more about relationship coaching and exploring if it might be a good fit for you, send me an inquiry via DM or use the link in the comments to schedule a free discovery session.
Relationship coaching is helpful for cultivating and strengthening all kinds of relationships - family, friendships, life partners/marriages, and even professional relationships. I support singles, people who are dating, and couples.